Why Too Much Positive Thinking Will Get You Into Big Trouble
In today's world thanks to movies and books that mention the Law of attraction, the idea of thinking positively to achieve all your goals has become more popular than ever
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Most people would say that supreme confidence is the way to achievement. You have to envision yourself or imagine for yourself the ideal result, before you achieve what you want. You have to go into what you are doing with a totally positive outlook, whether it is a presentation, a prospective employee meet-up, a date, or a much greater venture.
In today's world thanks to movies and books that mention the Law of attraction, the idea of thinking positively to achieve all your goals has become more popular than ever. The actually pretend as if the Law of Attraction is an actual scientific law that works predictably under all circumstances.
I am here to let you know that if you are continually thinking positive and you always assume that nothing will ever go wrong, you are significantly bringing down your odds of accomplishment. Because in the real world things go bad most of the time, if not all the time.
Do you know how safety norms are implemented for vehicles, or for Planes or for Space Flights? They are done as such by considering each conceivable negative situation that could possibly happen. Some of these are by assuming rather implausible scenarios, some are very real possibilities of accidents that could happen if norms were not put into place and some are implemented after gaining knowledge from an actual event, such as a plane crash.
Would you be open to going in an automobile or a plane or perhaps in a spacecraft in the distant future, knowing that the only safety planning the designers did was thinking positively? Would you feel safe realizing that the designers did not envision and address all conceivable negative results that could happen and put your life at risk? Would you want to live in a building developed by an architect who just depended on positive thinking and did not plan on how to shield it from conceivable calamities?
The apartments we live in, the vehicles we travel in and the gadgets we use are safe today, for the most part, because of the positive results of negative thinking. Scientists have found that in many cases, people who worry actually perform better than people who are super confident all the time. These people are called defensive pessimists. The worry and fear motivates them to push for levels of near perfection and not settle for anything else. The super confident people in their delusion might assume they are great, but their assumptions are shattered in the real world when things go wrong.
This is not to say that thinking positively is bad. Obviously thinking positively and confidence is extremely crucial for success but only to an extent. Thinking that things will never go wrong and always be perfect only leads to disaster.
So this brings us to the question, when would it be a good idea for you to practice thinking positively and when is thinking negatively a better idea.
The short response to that is it relies on upon the circumstances. Confidence is a good idea when the consequences of being wrong are not grave.
You want to approach someone for dating and are confident they will say yes. But they say no. Who cares? You are confident your speech will go amazing and people will give you a standing ovation. But they boo you instead. Its okay, it's still not big of a deal.
But you can't use the same confidence when you are an engineer constructing a building or a doctor conducting a surgery and be okay with things going wrong because the consequences will be disastrous. Sure, there will always be some risks involved, but you need to do the absolute best from your side and utilize your skills to the best you can.
Obviously the word "grave" can be subjective but certainly being rejected in a date or even a job is not nearly as grave as being responsible for a car or a plane crash.
If you are the kind who is always optimistic and looks at the bright side of things you will do really well in sales jobs, where rejection is the norm but the consequences of rejection are not grave. Even if you are rejected or are wrong, you can simply brush things off and rely on your optimism to keep moving forward. As a result, sooner or later you will succeed!
But if you are a doctor or an engineer, you need to be the cautious kind. Even if you are in business, where risk taking is the norm, you need to combine both approaches. Obviously, you also need to be a positive thinker to keep you going through rejections. But it is also wise to be relatively cautious, especially if you are putting in your own money into a venture or have raised significant debt from the bank
You can take more risks if the result of being wrong is not grave (You have raised money from investors who won't demand it back, although it might still hit your reputation if you fail.) On the other hand, if failing means the bank will be after all your assets and your family will lose their house and have to live on the streets, it is better to take fewer risks!
There is nothing wrong with taking things slow and walking towards your dream cautiously. The important thing is that you keep walking and keep testing things. In an untested business venture, it is better to be a pessimist. Invest small amounts of time and money first, if it succeeds, put in more and scales it up! If it doesn't, pat yourself on the back for being smart and not investing a huge amount of effort and money into something that was going to fail anyway.
In conclusion, a lack of confidence, ironically, in some situations is actually a great idea and can save you from disaster. While confidence gives you the belief to get started and is crucial to taking initiative, overconfidence only leads to trouble. Overconfidence is particularly disastrous when the consequences of being wrong are seriously grave. The truth is both forms of thinking are important, but what is given preference depends on the situation. Eventually the key is to locate a sweet spot and a balance both methodologies if you want to maximize your chances of achieving success!
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