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Okay, So Who Pushed My Leadership Button?

Bottom line is that it is a waste of time to get upset at an illusion. It’s like trying to grab air. I want to feel as free as a bird! No attachments. Just like the lady in the red sunglasses!

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Oh Give me a Home

Lord, give me a home

where all beings are safe

in their thoughts, words, and actions.

Give me a home 

where all life is sustained

by every breath we take.

Lord, give me friends

who see my beauty within 

and who are positive in all ways.

Give me a planetary home

where sincere prayers are said daily

and answered by Grace.

Lord, give me a life

where all humans wisely practise a spiritual life

to be infinitely more valuable to their Clients. 

Give me a home

where I am free as a bird

to reach the highest heights of love.

Lord, give me more love

with which I can transform 

and be more worthy of respect.

Give me a home

where I can weep openly

to celebrate each joyous moment.

~ Betska K-Burr

Ever had one of those days? Where everything is humming along, you feel great and then BOOM out of nowhere comes a call, email or text message that turns your life upside down?  The message breaks your heart into a million pieces – and it feels like you’ll never put it together again.  And so you reach out in prayer.  

The criticism in the message feels unwarranted because you’ve been bustin’ your butt for the “good of all”. Gosh, maybe you even sacrificed your private time and private money to ensure a happy ending for others. Ever been there? I’m going to guess that most of you are nodding your heads.

If you have a Mentor or Coach, they might give you typical leadership advice such as:

  • “Why don’t you have an open hearted conversation with the other party and resolve it?” Or,
  • “If the other person made you angry, where is the mirror?  What is the Universe trying to teach you about your own behaviours?”

But here is a different way to look at it.

When someone shows their fangs towards you, it could also be that you are being reminded to push a different type of leadership button – your “Detachment Button”!   Allow me to explain.  We get so attached to life, don’t we?  We get attached to our home, our family, our children, our job, our car, our body, our values, our thoughts, our friends and our everything!   We make these things our “God”.   Thus, we lead superficial lives forgetting that our real reason for being on Planet Earth is to remember who we really are inside.  We are here to reconnect with the part of us that sees no separation from others and the world around us.  

Recently a “friend” told me that I made him feel guilty.  Well, the truth is that no one can make you feel guilty unless you believe that you are guilty!  Tricky eh?   He also told me that I push people too hard.  Yes, I am known to push people but I think in a good way.  I have a knack for seeing potential in people that they rarely see in themselves and thus I push them to bring out the brilliance that is sitting there dormant, like an unpolished diamond.    

I can’t remember the year I wrote the poem, “Oh Give me a Home”, probably ten years ago or more.  Yet, the message is still as poignant as it was then.  The message is “Push your Leadership Button, work on your spirituality to detach from the mundane world.  Everything is an illusion anyway.”

What’s really cool is that once we detach from the mundane, Earth is a very pleasant “Home” in which to live no matter what call, email or text happens to show up in our lives.

Therefore, I thank my friend for pushing my personal Leadership Button by pointing out to me that anything that belongs to the human realm is just an illusion.  I did apologize to him if he felt I had treated him poorly.  But if my actions were also there to help remind him about his own illusion, then I am happy to have helped him realize that. I hope he can now feel the love I am projecting towards him as I work on transforming myself to feel everything is an illusion.  I have work to do, folks!

Bottom line is that it is a waste of time to get upset at an illusion.  It’s like trying to grab air. I want to feel as free as a bird!  No attachments. Just like the lady in the red sunglasses!

I think I’ll push my “Detachment” Leadership Button. Care to join me?

Disclaimer: The views expressed in the article above are those of the authors' and do not necessarily represent or reflect the views of this publishing house. Unless otherwise noted, the author is writing in his/her personal capacity. They are not intended and should not be thought to represent official ideas, attitudes, or policies of any agency or institution.

Betska K-Burr

The author is known as The Guru Coach, is an Accredited Master Coach (IIC&M), Co-President of Coaching and Leadership Intl. Inc. and a Canadian best-selling author who has visited India on numerous occasions and loves India as her second home.

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